Episode # 52
In this episode of Care Giving for Dementia : I talk a little bit about caregiver pressure. Caregiver pressures to pressure that you have as you care for someone with any kind of physical or mental disability.
I talk about life pressure and the pressure that you have that you put on yourself as you care for someone else. The pressure builds and comes to where it just explodes and you jump on anybody and everybody that’s around.
This was the case I found myself into with my son the other night I jumped all over him for something that he may or may not be able to control. I felt like he didn’t care, wasn’t doing anything to help the problem, was creating more pressure for me.
When I leave the house for a few hours I get to feeling like I’m the one that needs to be there to take care of mom. I get the feeling that it’s my responsibility not someone else’s to take care of her. The longer I’m out the board the feeling gets that I’m the one that needs to be home so the pressure and the stress start to build. I don’t always leave the house because of this stress that it builds the pressure that it builds when I leave.
There’s all kind of pressure there’s all kinds of stress in life. Some of the stress and pressure is self-induced. Some of the other pressure is just life stress in general. It don’t always get away from the pressure and the stress totally. A lot of the times things that you do to relieve the stress and relieve the presser adds a different kind of stress or pressure to you.
I think that’s a lot of the reason why it has taken me a year and a half to put out 52 episodes of this podcast because deadlines add pressure. Life has enough stress and pressure that we don’t need to add stress to our lives of having a deadline for everything that we do in life. And don’t get me wrong I’m enjoying this podcast I enjoy coming in talking to you. Meeting a deadline adds undue stress to an already stressed situation.
I honestly think stress and pressure starts back at the first grade. When you start school, the teacher gives you homework to do by a certain deadline. The deadline is what starts the pressure of having something done on time.
Pressure starts at a very young age and you try to find different ways of relieving that stress. For me I started smoking at 14. Made me feel big made me feel like a man. Now that I’m in my 50s I’m paying for that mistake of picking up the first cigarette that I enjoyed so much that made me and cough so bad.
In your 50’s and 60’s sometimes even in your 40’s you start paying for the things that you did coming up through life.You find yourself throughout life paying for things that you did as a kid. You find yourself in a certain spot or certain place for a very long time. You find yourself having to move out of that certain spot due to the fact of some things that you did in life.
I’ve said all this just to say that stress and pressure of life can never really seem to get away from it all together. It seems to follow you no matter where you go what you do or how you do it. The things that we do to relieve this pressure of life doesn’t always relieve that pressure altogether. It may relieve it for a time but you may end up paying for it later on in life. I don’t always leave the house to get away from the pressure because it creates more pressure although it may be a different kind of pressure it’s still pressure.
I don’t have any answers to get completely away from the stress the pressure of care giving. I don’t have any answers to get away from the life pressure. Yes you couldn’t go away for weekend, you can go be by yourself for a while, but I have come to realize that the pressure still that of be there no matter what, where, when, or how you try to deal with it. We just got a deal with what life hands us the best we can, the easiest way we can and go on with life.